Approval Debt
The accumulating cost of decisions made to protect someone else's opinion of you.
Every choice bent toward approval borrows against your own direction. The interest shows up as resentment, hesitation and a life shaped by an audience that was never paying attention. Repayment starts with one visible decision made openly against expectation.
Also called: approval seeking · people pleasing · people-pleasing
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