Familiar Pain
Suffering you keep because you already know its shape, rather than risking an unknown improvement.
Human beings do not choose comfort over pain; they choose the known over the unknown. A predictable disappointment feels safer than an unpredictable success. Progress usually begins the moment you can say plainly what you are getting out of the thing you complain about.
Also called: comfortable pain · known pain
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